Sensual For You

What do I look for in your personality?

I just want to say something briefly here before I begin: I am not perfect nor do I claim to be and I am not seeking others who are perfect. In fact, one of the great things about polyamory is that even if one partner doesn't have all the traits you are looking for in a mate, with 2 or 3 partners, your needs can eventually be met allthewhile remembering that ultimately we have to meet our own needs.

What I can't do is have a relationship with someone who is so far removed from who I am (I'm a spiritually conscious human who is very intuitive), how I think (I'm above average in intelligence), what my morals & values are (although I have my dark side as we all do, I try to focus on my bright loving side), how I view spirituality (it's not about religion, it's about the gift of life, love, individualism & our unity to the Universe). I've tried having relationships with people who didn't get me & it was very very painful for me because I never felt understood, we didn't speak the same language, I was proactive & he chose to hide, I like to fix problems, he chose to ignore & so on.

I DON'T want change anyone. That is not my job, it's your job to change yourself. If you don't think there is anything wrong with you & you have no issues, then clearly you are much better than I am as a human. In fact, you are better than all the other humans that walk this earth & like I said, I'm not looking for perfection, I'm looking for people who know themselves so well, they know what their issues are & always strive to chip away at them.

I know that if you & I are on the same page, this is already a step in the right direction. Then we just have to figure out if we are attracted to one another, have the same basic goals & have chemistry. On the flip side, when I feel we are soooo different that I'm not being understood, I do lose it. Yes, that's one of my issues. I'm no longer the loving person I want to be & although that's not your problem, it's mine, I don't want to put myself into that situation to begin with.

The bottom line is, that I'm seeking someone very very close to who I am. Research shows that people do look for others who are like them, not just in personality, but even in looks. Next time you are people watching, look at the couples who have been together for a long time. They start looking almost exactly alike.

This is no offense to interracial relationships.

I want someone who can learn from me & who I can learn from as well. If only people would admit that they didn't belong together as a couple right from the getgo & they just remained friends, there wouldn't be so much anger when people parted.

I'm not picky, I'm just me. I know that not everyone is compatible with me & that's fine. I'm not looking for everyone, I'm looking for people who resonate with me not because they wish to live in my world, but because they already do. I hesitate in saying this only because people grow every day & I don't want to alienate someone who is almost there ready to cross over. If at least your on your spiritually conscious journey & have forged ahead above & beyond your fears, I would love to hear from you

By now you should have a pretty good picture of who I am & what I like and if you resonate with that, I welcome you to contact me.

One thing I ask is that you truly look at who you are as a person, not who you wish to be, as often times people pretend they are this person they want to be, but really they are very far from that reality. I don't believe that truly compatible people disagree all the time. In fact when someone tells me they like to debate with partners, that is a warning sign for me. I like someone who's challenging, but I'm not here to argue & debate every little thing with you. Yes we will disagree because we are 2 individual people, but if we are disagreeing most of the time instead of agreeing most of the time, in my opinion, there is a problem. Yes life is about ups & downs & anyone who thinks otherwise is living with rose coloured glasses on. At the same time, I feel that if we aren't meshing min. 75% of the time, there is no solid foundation for a healthy relationship. Most people are used to 75% struggle & 25% peace & meshing. I strive for the opposite. To get to that level, I feel a relationship needs understanding, empathy, you are very much interested in me & vice versa, communication, trust & constant healthy dedication to yourself & any relationship you are in. If you aren't willing to work on yourself, that's a sign for me that you will never love yourself enough therefore you can never love me.

So, I believe I am finally finished LOL!

I want to thank you you very very much for taking the time to read what I have to say.  Please e-mail me from here so your e-mail doesn't get deleted by spam filters. The keywords are in the subject line for a reason. If you are using a freebie e-mail service such as Hotmail or Yahoo, please make sure you include my keywords "Poly Style Together" in the subject line. Also I just want to let you know that unless a person omits my keywords in the subject line, I ALWAYS respond back to their e-mails. So, if you do not get a response back one way or another, you know I didn't receive it in the first place because yes, e-mails do get lost on the net all the time.

If you are a couple, I have one more page I'd like you to read please. For everyone else, I wish you all the best & I look forward to getting to know you as a very real person. 

Peace & Serenity,

Michelle

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Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.

— Helen Keller

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